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Controversy- Nothing New Here #cancelculture

I was recently asked to give my opinion about a controversial article by the person who wrote it. I’m not sure they knew what they were getting into. I don’t even know if my response was accepted since my comment came several days after the article was posted and some blog platforms have cut-offs for comments. In any case, below is the comment I submitted, even if it didn’t get posted (but it might have).

I want to be clear in stating that I personally do not feel that the person who wrote this article is a mean or bad person in any way shape or form. They have an opinion that is different from mine about this particular issue. This person does share my opinion about some other things. (It is possible for people to agree on some things and disagree on others.) This person is willing to be open and honest and have conversations that others would like to gloss over or “sweep under the rug” and for that, I admire her.

My response to her article is very one-sided, and I will not apologize for it. I am aware of what’s going on in the world and do not believe for a moment that “my struggle” is the only one in existence, but the opinion that I expressed was based on my gut reaction. It has not changed. If someone wants to point out global issues that I didn’t address in my comment, they are welcome to do so.

So, below you will see my response to an article (which you can find HERE) written about the film, Gone With The Wind. If you are not interested in reading any opinion that may not be exactly the same as your own regarding this film, please skip it. I’m not here to change your mind and don’t need you to try to change mine. You are welcome to leave a comment, but I will only be responding with the following statement, “Thank you for reading the post and sharing your opinion.”

Since this comment is being reposted here, I have cleaned up some typos, but grammatical errors may still be present since I didn’t want to edit my words too much. And while I don’t say this in my comment, Gone With The Wind (GWTW) is a work of fiction, an interpretation of events based on the historical past, but even HIStory is told from SOMEone’s perspective.

BTW- On a personal note, I’ll be attending an annual fashion show this weekend which raises funds and awareness for the fight against human trafficking. I may be posting about it afterward.

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“I’m not offended by this article, but I also don’t agree with it.

This isn’t something I haven’t heard before and I’m sure I will hear it again.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with appreciating GWTW for its cinematic historical significance, but I personally feel the movie is overly praised for its depiction of the Civil War south, which is only accurate from the white perspective.

I’m not saying that unicorns never existed, but I’ve never personally met a white person who has said that Roots was their favorite movie. Yet, so many people will defend GWTW if someone else doesn’t love it. I don’t care if someone doesn’t love Roots, but other people get emotional if I say, “I don’t love GWTW”.

If people wouldn’t ask me questions about this movie, I would never give it a second thought. I’ve seen it. It has entertainment value. It’s visually stunning and the story arc is complex and inspiring, but so are a bunch of other movies. Beyond the things I’ve listed, it’s just another movie about white people, for white people, that just happens to feature black people according to the period in which the movie takes place.

What it boils down to is the statement, “Slaves on the Tara plantation were generally happy and loved their masters.” That statement explains what’s wrong with this film.

Slaves can’t be happy. Yes, they can be content, optimistic, and have hope, and even be forgiving, but they cannot be happy. Slaves cannot be happy because they do not own their own existence.

Prostitutes don’t love their pimps. Dogs don’t love the people who keep them chained up and force them to fight other dogs just so they can live another day to do it all again. Rape victims don’t love their rapists. And slaves experience all these things and more, whether physical or mental. To say that “Slaves on the Tara plantation were generally happy and loved their masters”, undermines the millions of slaves who were treated unfairly and makes the assumption that just because Tara slaves weren’t mistreated that they were happy. Since when does a lack of mistreatment equate to happiness? (So, yeah, I’m not going to beat you but you can’t leave and need to do all my work so I can take it easy). If one slave is mistreated, all slaves are mistreated.

As long as, people watch this movie and think that the slaves were happy, black people will continue to condemn this film. Allies to the cause of true freedom will continue to fight against the glorification of slavery that this film represents. If the white community could come to a consensus and admit that this depiction of slavery is wrong, then maybe we all could view this film for its cinematic historical significance, instead of its part of the ongoing problem.

I have a high opinion of this blog author and this opinion has not changed, but that’s only because I stopped trying to get non-POCs to understand the POC perspective a long time ago. They will either eventually get there, or they won’t.

I was asked to offer my honest opinion and here it is.

Colleagues of this blogger have deemed me “an angry black woman” in the past, but then all black women are deemed angry in the eyes of white society if we aren’t smiling and keeping quiet. I don’t think this blogger sees me that way and I appreciate her willingness to express her true opinion even if I don’t agree with it. With her, and hopefully others, the conversation is at least happening.

I don’t think GWTW should be canceled, but I also don’t think it should be on a pedestal. It needs to be talked about.

Thank you, Denise.”

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Thank you for making it this far down the virtual page. Kudos to you! I’d love to know what you thought of this post in the comments below. Stay safe and be blessed.

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#IWSG May 2021: Are your followers friendly or scary?

Feliz de Cinco de Mayo! If you like Facebook Live, you should check out the video I posted yesterday talking about the underappreciated day.
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Created and hosted by the Ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writers Support Group posts the 1st Wednesday of every month. Click the image to learn more or sign up.

Optional Monthly Question: Has any of your readers ever responded to your writing in a way that you didn’t expect? If so, did it surprise you?

Yes. First of all, having anyone respond to my writing at all is always a shocking experience. Whether it’s a 1-star or 5-star review, it blows my mind that someone would take moments of their life to publicly comment on something I’ve written.

Secondly, I’ve received some interesting emails from people who’ve liked and disliked my work. Again, I’m astounded by the effort it took for them to either fill out the contact form on my Contact page or find my email address just to send me a message. One of my favorites was, a bit scary and, from a person demanding I hurry up and write the sequel to one of my stories.

Lastly, up until recently, I have cherished every comment I’ve ever gotten on my blog, even when they weren’t always positive, because again I appreciated the time taken to connect and communicate. Recently, however, I receive a comment on my blog that felt very much like an attack and a passing of judgment against me and my entire race. I do not cherish that comment, and yet, I will not remove it. I will leave it there as a reminder. A reminder that when you ask for comments, you must face the fact that not all of them will be cherished.

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IWSG BOOK CLUB ON GOODREADS

Well, I finished both books for the may discussion and am dreading having to come up with something to say about The High Mountains of Portugal (I just didn’t like it.). Deep Point of view was great. Probably gonna read more of her books.

Our March/April/May reads are…
The High Mountains of Portugal by Yann Martel is our fiction selection that offers a great use and example of description.

Deep Point of View (Busy Writer’s Guides Book 9) by Marcy Kennedy is our writing craft book with a focus on deep POV.

Discussion Day for both books will be May 26, 2021!

Please consider JOINing US for our next discussions.

 

So, I relaunched my newsletter, making is an homage to my love of reading. I think the first one went well. We’ll see how this months goes.

Now, on to the personal updates.

There were some really great entries in the WEP challenge in April and wish everyone the best with the continued challenges for 2021. I will be stepping away from the challenge for a while, maybe forever, not sure at the moment. It has been a wonderful supportive environment to develop and hone skills and I encourage struggling writers to seek it out. I will miss the community and enriching variety. I’ve learned so much but must now move on to learn elsewhere.

I’m sure there’s more I have to share, but my mind is a buzz with many things. I’d like to leave you all on a silly note by sharing a video from my YouTube channel, should anyone be interested in checking it out.

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Has a reader response ever shocked you?
Any thoughts on the IWSG Book Club books?
Any other interesting bookish or geekish news to share?
It may take some time, but I promise, I will eventually stop by your blog.

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After hanging out with Alex, be sure to stop by and visit this month’s co-hosts:
Erika Beebe,
PJ Colando,
Tonja Drecker,
Sadira Stone, and
Cathrina Constantine!

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Click here to visit other IWSG blogs and sites to receive and share more inspiration and support. (This month, I’m #36).

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords #blacklivesmatter

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#IWSG December 2020: The Best Time of Year to Write

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Created and hosted by the Ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writers Support Group posts the 1st Wednesday of every month. Click the image to learn more or sign up.

Optional Monthly Question: Are there months or times of the year that you are more productive with your writing than other months, and why?

I used to have a job that made me cry every day, but it came with lots of vacation time and summer’s off. I used to get so much writing done on my paid vacations that I stayed in that horrible job for 10 years. I now work a job I love, but it comes with no time off. It’s really a pain for me to plan to take time off and then enjoy my time off because it’s always so brief. I have no time to write (I know that doesn’t make me special or unique in any way, but it’s harder for me to write now than it’s ever been). Still, I don’t cry 5-days a week on the way to an abusive job, so that’s nice. Not sure I’ll ever get to a point where I write like I used to. I’ll always be a writer, just not sure I’ll ever get to publish anything again.

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WEP October and December Challenges


It was an honor to come in as Runner-up in the October “Grave Mistake” challenge. Be sure to check out the emotional guest post from challenge 1st-place winner Rebecca Douglass.


Briefly, the December challenge “Unmasked” was canceled due to time constraints and stressors of the season, but the WEP admins have come up with a very casual and laid-back approach for this challenge to continue for anyone interested. Click the image to see what’s in store for 2021 and see any stories that may be shared for the December prompt. You can read my entry here if you’d like.

IWSG BOOK CLUB ON GOODREADS

Our book club is changing things up!
We will have quarterly book selections now, giving us more time to read. We will also have one fiction book selection and one writing craft book selection. Members can read both or choose between them. Finally, we won’t be offering 5 optional discussion questions anymore. Instead, we will be utilizing the polls that our members enjoy, so there will be one poll question for the fiction book and one for the non-fiction book on Discussion Day.

Our December/January/February reads are…

Ghost Light by Joseph O’Connor, a book written in second-person. Since many readers haven’t read a book in second-person, and many writers haven’t written in second-person, we figured this is a great chance to explore something new.

 

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Preparing to Write Settings that Feel Like Characters by J Lenni Dorner. This will be our writing craft book, with a focus on settings.

 

 

Discussion Day for both books will be February 24, 2021! JOIN US! 

Now, on to the personal updates.

I’ve been reading a bit and writing a bit, but not as much as I’d like of each. Honestly, it’s not as bad as it would usually be because it’s 2020. I’ve simply decided that this is a trial year- everything will pretty much be a do-over in 2021. In 2021 I’ll work on actually reaching some writing goals, I’ll give my Goodreads challenge a legit effort and post reviews on time, and I’ll stop phoning in my blog efforts. For now, I’m just focusing on getting to 2021 without a complete breakdown, so that means I read less, write less, and blog less. At least I’m still moving forward- even if I’m moving very slow and don’t really have a destination.

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Is there an ideal time of year for you to write?
If you don’t write, have you considered it?
It may take some time, but I promise, I will stop by your blog.

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After hanging out with Alex, be sure to stop by and visit this month’s co-hosts:
Pat Garcia,
Sylvia Ney,
Liesbet @ Roaming About,
Cathrina Constantine, and
Natalie Aguirre!

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Click here to visit other IWSG blogs and sites to receive and share more inspiration and support. (This month, I’m #37).

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords #blacklivesmatter