A little while ago, Michael D’Agostino, of A Life Examined, brought up the idea of a new blog hop called Question of the Month. He thinks blog readers would like to know a little more about us, the bloggers. So we’re all gathering to show you guys who we are by taking part in the Question of the Month blog hop. On the first Monday of each month, we answer the question that gets posted here.
This month’s question is: “What’s a decision you’ve made in the past that you know, logically, was the right decision to make, but which you still feel guilty or regretful about?”
This is a pretty deep question. I don’t want to shy away from it or not give it my full consideration. I’m just not sure if I have anything that really stands up to this.
In my mind, this question is a matter of making a correct choice that doesn’t maybe feel right or hurts someone along the way. Example; a manager makes the choice to fire someone who comes to work a little late every day and is the lowest ranked sales rep, but who is also the nicest person in the department and a really hard worker. The manager has to let someone go, but they still feel bad about it. I just don’t know that I’ve had to make any decisions like that.
I guess the closest I’m come to something like this would be letting go of certain attachments and friendships. I’ve had to do that at different times in my life and I always feel bad afterwards. In retrospect, it’s obvious that I made the right choice because my life is less dramatic and more peaceful overall without those people in it. At the time, though, that I ended those relationships, it was me being the bad guy, telling the other person they needed to change or walk away.
It takes a lot to tell someone that they are toxic and that their choices and or behavior is harmful. No one likes to feel that they are less than anyone else, but when someone says, “You gotta change,” how else could you possibly feel. So, I did the right and logical thing, but I still feel bad.
Please visit the other participants in this hop and even join in if you’d like. I’m curious to see if I interpreted the question correctly. I also wonder what kinds of responses others will share.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords
14 replies on “#Question of the Month: a #bloghop to think about. No. 16- What logical decision have you made that’s left you with #regret?”
I couldn’t really think of a decision like that either. If I regretted it, then it wasn’t a smart decision to begin with.
You have a point there.
I remember getting all tied into knots before ending a relationship when I was younger. It was a horrible thing, but a necessary thing at the time.
Yeah, something like that is never easy.
It takes special courage to let go of a friendship that is toxic and unhealthy. I’ve never had to do that but I’ve advised other people to do that. Glad you did what was right for you.
Thank you for saying that. Some people just don’t like to hear that some relationships aren’t meant to last.
It can be sad to say good-bye, but sometimes it’s just something you need to do.
Arlee Bird
Tossing It Out
I agree. Thanks for the understanding.
Yeah, sucks many a time when such an occasion arises. But has to be done too before they drain you.
Yeah, I know. It’s logical.
I’ve had to end some relationships because they weren’t healthy–they sucked the life right out of me. It’s not the other person’s fault if I allowed the relationship to go on too long, and I felt guilty about some of those endings. Now I try to learn from my mistakes instead of dwelling on them the way I tended to do when I was younger. Sometimes an ending simply has to happen.
Love,
Janie
I agree. I don’t dwell on things, but I do sometimes wonder if time has made things better. I’d kinda like to find out. Not sure how.
It took me a long time to get out of a toxic friendship. For one thing I didn’t realise it was toxic. But getting out of it is not something I regret, not at all!
It’s a funny thing, life, isn’t it 🙂
Sometimes it’s scary, but in retrospect, I guess you do look back and just have to laugh.