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#IWSG July 2021: Quitting isn’t what it used to be.

You ever have moments in your life where no matter what you do, you keep coming up short? Well, that’s me right now. Thus, my late post. Just got back from a much-needed rest and visiting family, but there’s no time to reflect on it. There’s just too much to do.
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Created and hosted by the Ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writers Support Group posts the 1st Wednesday of every month. Click the image to learn more or sign up.

Optional Monthly Question: What would make you quit writing?

I don’t think I will ever quit writing, but I could quit trying to publish my writing. Right now, I’m not actively trying to publish anything, but only because I’m waiting until I feel I have something worth publishing. For me, it’s not about quitting, it’s about whether or not I want to keep doing it.
Quitting isn’t what it used to be. Societal standards have overwhelmed so many people that it’s gotten to the point where very few feel obligated to stick with something that doesn’t bring them joy anymore and I, for one, am glad. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with someone saying, “I’ve had enough.” That’s called moving on. It’s not the same mentality as someone who never had a passion for something and then quit because it didn’t make them a lot of money. That’s what quitting is.
Sometimes I want to take time off, knowing how quickly people forget you and write you off if you’re not constantly putting yourself out there, and it used to cause me to stick around. Fortunately, I’ve reached a point where I don’t care anymore. If people write me off or forget about me, well, so be it. Sometimes I just need time off. When I return to writing, blogging, vlogging, or whatever it is I’ve taken time off from, I’m doing it for me. I’m just as happy with a crowd of one as I am with a crowd of 100.

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IWSG BOOK CLUB ON GOODREADS

I’m currently struggling to complete any of the books I’ve started including our book club reads and not because they aren’t good reads. I’m feeling overwhelmed in many areas of my life and unfortunately, my read count and word count are suffering. Hopefully though, since I’m seeking help and support, I’ll be able to get back on track soon.

Now, on to the personal updates.

Discovered a new medical condition that’s been making my life difficult to navigate. Was in a car accident (I’m okay). My dog is very sick. The woes of technological issues, and the usual stuff we know as life have made the last month and a half very difficult, but I’m trying to keep it moving. I hardly made it around to visit many blogs last month, but I hope to be able to visit more this month.

I posted a few videos to my YouTube channel just to feel like I have a little control of what’s going on around me. Despite the minor hardships I’m currently dealing with (in comparison to what other people are going through) I am still very blessed.

Here are a few videos you can check out if you’re up for it.

Have U Seen This? #7 6/21 |  6-21 Mid Year Haul | and

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Ever thought about quitting?
Whatever you’re going through, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
It may take some time, but I promise, I will eventually stop by your blog.

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After hanging out with Alex, be sure to stop by and visit this month’s co-hosts:
Pat Garcia,
Victoria Marie Lees,
Chemist Ken, and
Louise – Fundy Blue!

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Click here to visit other IWSG blogs and sites to receive and share more inspiration and support. (This month, I’m #36).

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords #blacklivesmatter

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#IWSG June 2021: How long can you wait?

For me, it’s birthday month, so this is going to be brief.  *Updated*  based responses in the comments,  I realize that  I need to clarify this. October is my birthday month. June is for my sister,  brother,  husband,  father,  nephew,  a few in-laws,  and a few cousins.  With graduations,  weddings,  anniversaries,  and baby showers,  June is always a busy month. 72b25-iwsg2bbadge

Created and hosted by the Ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writers Support Group posts the 1st Wednesday of every month. Click the image to learn more or sign up.

Optional Monthly Question: For how long do you shelve your first draft, before reading it and re-drafting? Is this dependent on your writing experience and the number of stories/books under your belt?

It can take me anywhere from 30 days to 36 months to complete a first draft, depending on how many times I chuck it all and completely start over. Once I’ve finished a first draft; however, I stick to a pretty solid regimen. I wait one month before reading it again. If I don’t feel the slightest bit impressed with the fact that I completed something that isn’t horrible, I don’t move forward to making developmental edits. Usually, after a 3rd draft is when I start trying to have other people look at what I’ve read. After feedback from at least two people, I do my own superficial edits (‘cause I can’t do a decent self-edit to save my life) before seeking the services of one to two editors.

I recently had the opportunity to try out the services of a writing coach and received some immensely helpful feedback. Whenever I do finally have something worth pursuing for publication, I will definitely invest in her services when working on a 2nd or 3rd draft.

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I’ll have more to share next month. For now, I hope everyone is staying safe.

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So, how long do you wait to read your manuscript after the first draft?
It may take some time, but I promise, I will eventually stop by your blog.

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After hanging out with Alex, be sure to stop by and visit this month’s co-hosts:
J Lenni Dorner,
Sarah Foster,
Natalie Aguirre,
Lee Lowery, and
Rachna Chhabria!

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Click here to visit other IWSG blogs and sites to receive and share more inspiration and support. (This month, I’m #36).

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords #blacklivesmatter

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#IWSG May 2021: Are your followers friendly or scary?

Feliz de Cinco de Mayo! If you like Facebook Live, you should check out the video I posted yesterday talking about the underappreciated day.
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Created and hosted by the Ninja himself, Alex J. Cavanaugh, the Insecure Writers Support Group posts the 1st Wednesday of every month. Click the image to learn more or sign up.

Optional Monthly Question: Has any of your readers ever responded to your writing in a way that you didn’t expect? If so, did it surprise you?

Yes. First of all, having anyone respond to my writing at all is always a shocking experience. Whether it’s a 1-star or 5-star review, it blows my mind that someone would take moments of their life to publicly comment on something I’ve written.

Secondly, I’ve received some interesting emails from people who’ve liked and disliked my work. Again, I’m astounded by the effort it took for them to either fill out the contact form on my Contact page or find my email address just to send me a message. One of my favorites was, a bit scary and, from a person demanding I hurry up and write the sequel to one of my stories.

Lastly, up until recently, I have cherished every comment I’ve ever gotten on my blog, even when they weren’t always positive, because again I appreciated the time taken to connect and communicate. Recently, however, I receive a comment on my blog that felt very much like an attack and a passing of judgment against me and my entire race. I do not cherish that comment, and yet, I will not remove it. I will leave it there as a reminder. A reminder that when you ask for comments, you must face the fact that not all of them will be cherished.

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IWSG BOOK CLUB ON GOODREADS

Well, I finished both books for the may discussion and am dreading having to come up with something to say about The High Mountains of Portugal (I just didn’t like it.). Deep Point of view was great. Probably gonna read more of her books.

Our March/April/May reads are…
The High Mountains of Portugal by Yann Martel is our fiction selection that offers a great use and example of description.

Deep Point of View (Busy Writer’s Guides Book 9) by Marcy Kennedy is our writing craft book with a focus on deep POV.

Discussion Day for both books will be May 26, 2021!

Please consider JOINing US for our next discussions.

 

So, I relaunched my newsletter, making is an homage to my love of reading. I think the first one went well. We’ll see how this months goes.

Now, on to the personal updates.

There were some really great entries in the WEP challenge in April and wish everyone the best with the continued challenges for 2021. I will be stepping away from the challenge for a while, maybe forever, not sure at the moment. It has been a wonderful supportive environment to develop and hone skills and I encourage struggling writers to seek it out. I will miss the community and enriching variety. I’ve learned so much but must now move on to learn elsewhere.

I’m sure there’s more I have to share, but my mind is a buzz with many things. I’d like to leave you all on a silly note by sharing a video from my YouTube channel, should anyone be interested in checking it out.

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Has a reader response ever shocked you?
Any thoughts on the IWSG Book Club books?
Any other interesting bookish or geekish news to share?
It may take some time, but I promise, I will eventually stop by your blog.

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After hanging out with Alex, be sure to stop by and visit this month’s co-hosts:
Erika Beebe,
PJ Colando,
Tonja Drecker,
Sadira Stone, and
Cathrina Constantine!

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Click here to visit other IWSG blogs and sites to receive and share more inspiration and support. (This month, I’m #36).

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords #blacklivesmatter