#IWSG September 2014: Transitions


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I often how well others handle transitions, those times spent in between one part of your life and other. I don’t think I handle them too badly, but I know I have room for improvement. I also wonder how one identifies whether they are in a place of transition rather than a consistent state of being. For instance, in terms of relationships, there the dating/courtship period and there’s marriage; the transition between the two is called an engagement. What do you call when you’re in a place somewhere between being a newbie/novice and being on top/an expert in your field? I feel like that’s where I am.

I’m been writing and blogging for about four years now and I’m still no expert and definitely not on top, but I’m no novice either. Sometimes I count my goals to give me perspective, but lately I’ve learned that counting them isn’t enough. I also have to reevaluate to make sure to pursuing what truly best and simply chasing after something for all the wrong reasons.

I guess the point of all this is that I feel like I’m ready to move on to bigger and better things, but I’m just not there yet. So, do I continue down this path the same way I’ve been going, try something new, or try to stopping wanting so much? I seriously don’t see the latter as a viable option.

Do you feel like you are in a transition or have you been in one? How did you get out? I’d seriously love to know.

After listening to me ponder my own query, here’s something that you may or may not be interested in and that may put a smile on your face. I’ve just relaunched my You Tube channel with all new programming and just aired my first episode. You can check it out here if you’d like.


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Toi Thomas

I like reading, writing, cooking, dancing, movies, and music. I'm a big kid and choose to see the world in my own special way. Yes, I'm educated, but I haven't let that stop me from being who I want to be. I'm a wife, teacher, author, blogger, and more.

8 thoughts on “#IWSG September 2014: Transitions”

  1. It’s good to try something new. That comes with change and venturing into the unknown, which is challenging – that’s why humans tend to resist change, opting for the comfort and familiarity of what we know and are accustomed to. We love our comfort zones. That being said, we also have to acknowledge that not all change is for the better…
    It depends.
    Happy IWSG Day!

    1. I agree. I like the direction I’m going, but I’m not afraid to turn around if it turns out to be the wrong path. I just wish I could know ahead of time, but now I’m just being selfish. The element of the unknown is what makes us grow and change. Thank you.

  2. Hi Toi, I think this is a common problem. I think you have to decide what kinds of “bigger and better things” you’d like to do and write them down. Then, write a list of all the things you need to do to reach each goal. And then search for people who are where you want to be, study their model, and then adapt it for your own purposes. Set reasonable goals, tell people about them so that they also hold you accountable, and try to have a good balance in your life so that you’re not so goal driven that you wake up one day and realize that you’re not living. Anyway, I’m sure you’ll figure it out. Good luck!

    1. Thank you for that. I like the way you broke that all down. I guess it is all about making the right choices and being realistic.

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