Tea and Conversation 18: Adoption

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Today in my meditation I’m thinking about Eternal Curse and I’m writing about: Why adoption?

It starts out very subtle and builds rapidly in the first story, but in the second one it really takes off. What I’m talking about is my adoption theme. Adoption is very important to me for many reasons I’ll share briefly, but first I want to talk about how it appears in my ECS.

In book one, both Giovanni and Mira are orphans to some degree, and by the middle of the book, they along with Abraham have formed a surrogate family. In my second book, there are many more surrogate family dynamics and more adopted children to love and raise. The idea that family is limited to the people you happen to be related to by blood went out the window for me a long time ago, and whether I do it consciously or not, the adoption theme will always have a place in my writing.

For me personally adoption is a big deal. I never knew that there were so many people in the world who truly looked to blood relations as somehow being more important or significant that others until I grew up and saw it for myself. There are so many people who have trouble reconciling the fact that the man I call father isn’t my birth father. I have a younger sister, who was adopted, but now lives with her birth family. The drama regarding this is much too sensitive to write about now, but she’s still my sister. Other people just don’t get it. It blows my mind that there are people in this world who would literally turn their backs on a child just because he or she wasn’t connect to them by blood…I’m going stop here before I start to ramble and rant.

Real family is comprised of people who love you regardless.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. If you like it let me know and share it with others. See you next time, Toi Thomas. #thetoiboxofwords

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Toi Thomas

I like reading, writing, cooking, dancing, movies, and music. I'm a big kid and choose to see the world in my own special way. Yes, I'm educated, but I haven't let that stop me from being who I want to be. I'm a wife, teacher, author, blogger, and more.

2 thoughts on “Tea and Conversation 18: Adoption”

  1. I like this, and I’m in your camp, Toi. I grew up in tribal society, where birth relationships are important, but everyone else in the family is equally important, regardless of who their biological parents are. Should a wife, brought in from another family, be considered as less involved? Not at all, she’s going to be the mother of the next generation with a bit of luck. So why should a child, adopted because of necessity, be treated as in any way less part of the family than one born to the familial parents?

    I’ll stop now befire I, too, join your rant.

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